Negative belief.

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Negative belief.

« on: July 04, 2008, 02:49:43 am »

Ok, I am a little emotional about an issue and I can't figure out where my negative beliefs lie..

Like, I am asking questions lately and every time I ask one it's like I annoy the crap out of people. At kungfu, work and even talking to people in a normal conversation.

For instance, when I'm in kungfu it's like I go to ask a question and, I am just asking something little I can't notice like, "hey do you lean this way or that" and it's like I get the response "It's none of your business".

At work, my boss is like "Hey, get everything out of THERE and throw it away, over THERE".So, since pronouns confuse the heck out of me I asked "Take WHAT out of What and throw it over where?" and the response I got was "JUST DO WHAT I SAY" So because I didn't throw an expensive peice of equipment away I got introuble and yelled at.

In casual conversations now, like, I will just ask a question about a normal subject like "Sooo, hasn't it been really hot lately?" I get the response "So?".

I can't figure out if it's my tone of voice or timing or whatever but I am confused and I keep getting these feeling of regret, guilt and worry. Although, I just can't really notice what the self belief is.

Any help?
Thanks.


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darkme_legendary

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Re: Negative belief.

« Reply #1 on: July 04, 2008, 04:53:47 pm »

I don't think that it's a belief here.
You are actually doing something and the other people are considering it rude and they are reacting accordingly.

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"Hey, get everything out of THERE and throw it away, over THERE".So, since pronouns confuse the heck out of me I asked "Take WHAT out of What and throw it over where?"

This can easily be considered as rude. It's like mocking him for how he is using words.

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"Sooo, hasn't it been really hot lately?" I get the response "So?"

I think here is more about the tonality.(ironic.. and unnecessary)

Think more about how you can calibrate your behaviors to each person separately. Ask yourself what is this person lacking in his/her life and provide it for her/him.
Don't look and push their emotional buttons just for the sake of it. Wink

Good luck!


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Re: Negative belief.

« Reply #2 on: July 05, 2008, 06:36:53 am »

Have you considered the possibility that you're projecting some vibe that elicits that type of response? I find that people usually pick up clues from us as to how we 'want' to be treated based on our self image, as we do with others. So, if we feel crappy about ourselves, that shows in subtle ways that others pick up on. Just a thought!


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Re: Negative belief.

« Reply #3 on: July 05, 2008, 07:39:39 am »

The one word in your post that is throwing me off is "lately." Is this actually something new, or is it something that has been occurring your whole life? If it's your whole life so far, then chances are that there is A LOT attached to that, and you're attracting these types of seemingly "uninterested" people. Is the way that other people talk to you similar to how you talk to yourself in your own head?

I don't have too much to go on... like I said there could be MANY different reasons. With a boss, it could be a credibility issue, the way he/she felt at that moment in time, his/her (in)ability to communicate effectively, etc. Basically, it's a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you fear that you'll annoy people, you'll annoy people, quite the paradox indeed. That said, I detect that there is some sort of approval-seeking behavior occurring.

More info please!

The VERY first thing I would do is balance my chakras using the Chakra Clearing technique. I've found that doing the Chakras helps to calm and center me, and a bunch of "neurotic" tendencies, microbehaviors and such are instantly fixed as a result. When these situations happen again, you won't have as much of an emotional reaction. Then handle the:

"Even though I'm afraid I'll annoy people..."
"Even though I don't know why it's happening..."

...and whatever else needs to be tapped. Once you lose the emotional attachment, the answer will become clear.

Craig


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